Movies like “runaway bride” and the recent news in the media about brides walking away from their pending nuptials has captured our attention in more than one way.
What is behind this “Cold Feet” concept? I am sure the root cause is some psychological reason for both men and women which terrifyies them to take the plunge into holy matrimony. Leaving the Bride or Groom at the alter and undoing months of wedding planning and expense is far more serious than the normal anxiety attacks suffered by an average person.

As many studies and surveys show that contrary to the popular perception of happy bride or Groom to be before the wedding many women and men find this time of transition a very trying and stressful period in their life and some go to the extreme of not going through with the wedding at all. Our Society has experimented with many ways to cope with the fear of commitment, the most popular and now an accepted norm is living together before any kind of serious long term commitment.

The point is if there is more than normal panic attacks involved here then the whole relationship needs to be examined carefully before taking the plunge into marriage(and before the pending Wedding day).

If the both the parties involved sit together and take a look at the practical aspect of the relationship as opposed to emotional then this anxiety and concern can be addressed in a much more constructive way and will save loads of heartache and embarrassment for everybody involved. To have a long lasting and fruitful union in any form it is best to get the little issues out of the way and then the big issues will be resolved in the same manner. The key is communication. If you communicate your fears and concerns beforehand, there will be no body alone at the altar on the Wedding day.

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As it is required for any major event, your wedding needs to be planned in advance to keep away the unexpected disasters that sometimes choose the oddest of times to manifest. We advise that you maintain a binder or a digital scheduler to track all the aspects of your wedding. Maintain separate tabs for things such as bakery, ceremony, catering, florist, music, reception, photography, transportation, etc., so that you can keep a track of what’s done and remains to be done.

During the planning stage you’ll be gleaning items like brochures, phone numbers, vendor estimates and bids, song sheets, receipts, pictures and contracts. Along with these you’ll obviously collect pictures of wedding gowns, bridesmaids’ gowns, flower arrangements, centerpieces and bridal bouquets, jewelry, photo samples given you by photographers, wedding accessories and other pictures that will help you plan your dream wedding. You can organize all these wedding related things with the help of your binder. You’ll have to schedule in advance your meetings with different wedding vendors, professionals and service providers.

Here are a few pointers to make your wedding as seamless as possible:

- DO THINGS IN ADVANCE
Things that can be done in advance…do them. This frees your time for more pressing, last-minute chores, and gives you more bargaining power because of the time you have to look and ask around.

- CHOOSE A WEDDING DAY CAREFULLY
Try choosing a day that’s suitable to all for your wedding if you want all your loved ones to attend it.

- MAINTAIN A COMPREHENSIVE TO-DO LIST
This way you can keep crossing the things you have done.

- GUESTS LIST
Believe it or not, sometimes we forget to invite people we really want to be present there. Make sure every important person is on the list, along with the contact details.

[o] CHOOSE YOUR PHOTOGRAPHER AND CATERER CAREFULLY
They are the most important components of your wedding because pleasant food generates pleasant atmosphere, and the photographs that are clicked on that date are the precious moments captured for the coming generations.

We hope you have a splendid wedding and a harmonious future together.

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What are your family obligations? Will your immediate family be hurt by not being included? And, do you care?

This, before money and personal feelings, comes first. You may want to consider calling your parents before you make the big leap, just to let them in on the secret. Or, perhaps you feel like it would do more harm than good. You might want to include them in the runaway, like so many couples do who simply want to avoid a huge, expensive wedding: a few of you get on a plane to some exotic destination, and wed there.

Then, there’s announcing your marriage afterwards. Some couples do send a formal announcement, and some throw their own “reception” or big party after they’ve wed, which is a great way for family and friends to feel included on your big decision. Others send what’s called an “At Home” card, which simply announces that the two of you are married, you’re home, and your new names (and addresses, etc.). A personal note explaining why you eloped is often included, to assuage possible hurt feelings

Lastly, most couples that elope give the advice that in the end, you should do what you want to do. It’s your marriage, after all, and if you want to be alone, then so be it.

Should We Still Register and Receive Gifts?

This is a bit of a complicated issue, because many times people close to you may feel insulted or hurt that you didn’t want to include them in your ceremony, but you still want them to buy you gifts. Most etiquette mavens recommend that you not register for gifts, but if you want to have a reception for your family and friends, you are more than welcome to accept any gifts they may bring.

Can We Send Announcements?

Eloping, by definition, is a secret, unplanned, getaway wedding without anyone’s consent. So, if you plan to tell everyone you just want to have a private ceremony, you’re actually just having a non-traditional, destination wedding. Announcements are recommended, and gifts are acceptable.

The internet has a plethora of suggestions about where to go if you’re planning a wedding getaway.If you want to pay the price, you can certainly hire a coordinator to arrange your plans for you, like they do in Puerto Vallarta or Australia, or even Scotland. Choose where you want to wed, and then begin comparing prices to see where you can get the most bang for your buck. Be sure you research marriage license and passport requirements as well as waiting periods. Also be sure there will be an officiant who’s able to marry you.

Even eloping can be a complicated wedding plan that will require a bit of organization and money. It all depends on what your image of a “dream day” is. Take that idea, and run away with it.

Jennifer Baumann is editor of Wedding Gazette, the resource for real-world wedding planning that’s packed with info on how to plan your budget, how to avoid killing certain family members, exhaustive theme ideas, plus tons of resources on finding favors, necessary accessories, and much more.